On the 12th December 2017 we had to say goodbye to our beautiful baby boy - Kyle Hoare. (2lb5oz)
We had trouble through-out the pregnancy and when we went for a hospital scan, the GP said its all okay, and to rebook at late date, but I saw something on the scan I didn't like. He rescanned my wife and said she had to be admitted ASAP.
We started to panic. They did tests and said he was mostly healthy, there was just a problem with the lack of Amniotic Fluids. Everyone said if he comes out screaming, that means he will be okay.
The C Section was going well, and all off a sudden we heard the loudest crying ever. Me and my wife looked at each other crying with joy, but then I looked around and saw loads of people rushing around us and grabbing an incubator which led to instant worry at first.
The team around us said don't worry, we can see him soon. I was in the waiting room for a bit, and then a nurse came in and said he is dying and I should say goodbye. My wife was still in the recovery room, and at first everyone said she couldn't see him, but luckily a few people in the team said she had to, no matter how she was feeling.
I won't get too gruesome here. He was bleeding in multiple spots non-stop. We both cuddled him. He wrapped his hand around my finger, and opened his eyes to look at his Mum. He then just had a last breath and passed.
We went to the bereavement area with our family, and just could not cope. Then a nurse come in with a memory box, full of great advice and nice things to remember Kyle by. In a time of not being able to think clearly - this helped ground us to some degree.
No parent should lose something as precious as a life they created. Sands are a great charity that not only provide support and healing, they are also working to reduce miscarriage and neonatal deaths. We want to support this important work in memory of our baby boy Kyle.
One night, I was laying on the sofa and saw something about the Great South Run on Facebook. I originally thought I had no chance, I exercised often, but running was a whole other beast. I bit the bullet and went to my first 5k Havant Park Run in the morning. I ran a lot, I walked a lot. Ended up doing this for almost 2 months, I loved the community, the coffee, and homemade cakes after.
I got hit with the running bug, and got serious. I decided to step things up a gear and found out about Victory Athletic Club, and promptly joined. They have helped with training greatly, and are very inspiring. I now run almost every day, and no longer fear the Great South Run.
Donating through JustGiving is fast, and totally secure. Sands will receive every donation directly and receive 100% of it. My wife, and I plan to donate at least £100 ourself, hopefully this will be a good goal, for a good cause. We also plan to do more events to do together in the future, also.
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Thank you all from the bottom of our heart!
*My official charity number is: SN0383770*