Thanks for taking the time to visit my JustGiving page and read our story.

Both Amy and I over the 15 years we have been together have always talked about having children but as many couples want to wait for the perfect situation and the right time. It was a conversation I had with someone from our past who sadly had cancer and although they were cured they were no longer able to have children. They told me that they had waited too long and now it was no longer possible and their sentiment was that the time would never be perfect and stressed to not miss our opportunity. This had a overwhelming effect on me, I couldn't stop thinking about what this person had said to me. So Amy and I discussed it and we both agreed now was the time... What are we waiting for.

Last year we were both hugely excited to find out Amy was pregnant and notified the relevant people arranging everything at hospitals and all appointments. Everything seemed to be on track and our first scan was closing in. My occupation takes me away from home a lot and it was on a Friday morning in September I had a call from Amy who told me that she had miscarried, it was a matter of days before our first scan. It broke my heart that I wasn't there to support her when she needed me, I rushed home immediately to support her as best I could. She was so brave dealing with the loss and the subsequent grief and I can't express how proud I am of her and how much love I have for her.

Miscarriage has such a profound effect on the mental health and well being of a mother, they carry so much of the burden I only wish that I could bear some of her load. That being said the feelings of sadness and grief are also shared by their partners and are not to be underplayed. The loss affected me greatly and when Amy mentioned doing this event for the Miscarriage Association there wasn't any choice in my mind. We are very fortunate to have each other and have the kind of relationship where we both support each other unconditionally, this has helped us to deal with our sadness and to continue trying to hopefully have a family of our own.

Thank you again for taking the time to read our story. I fully appreciate that times are difficult financially for many people in these current times but if you can help our cause then we will both be eternally grateful.

Stay positive and keep moving forward!

Rhys

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