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In Novemember 2004 our family was crippled by the devestating news that my dad was diagnosed with stage 3 Oesophageal cancer. To be told that a parent is critically ill is devestating, we all came together though as a family and me and my two brothers and our partners supported my dad and mum. So on the 13th of december 12 days before christmas my mum and dad went through to Aberdeen to start my dads 4 day chemo treatment. This treatment and trips to aberdeen days at a time continued for a full year also with the chemo therapy my dad had radio therapy given to him to try and beat his cancer. 

All through the treatments my dad constantly said i will beat this i wont let it beat me, he used to talk to his cancer and he was so determined. Like in all aspects of his life he was a fighter and worked hard to get what he wanted weither it was a job or an exam he wanted to pass or simply just providing for his family he did it and he was determined that cancer wasnt going to stop him from getting what he wanted for his future it was just simply a set back. 

So in 2006 my dad finally got clearance to head back to work he was delighted and was so delighted to be told he was off to Abu Dabi. I mean who wouldnt be to know that you were beating cancer and that you were healthy enough to be able to work again and provide for your family. My dad was in his eliment he loved hot exotic countrys and working in new exciting places. 

A few years went by and dad was great regular check ups came with a huge sigh of relief from everyone, and with my up and coming wedding to my lovely hubby paul we had lots to look forward to. Although our wedding was eventful in our own ways with the arrival of Isla being 9 weeks early and 2 weeks before our wedding we got through it. My mum and dad worked so hard to give me my wedding of my dreams and through it all my dad was proud of himself because he was able to do it for me and paul and my mum. Dad gave me away and did a beautiful speach about his family and i have never seen my mum and dad look more happy than having all our lovely family and friends who had made such a effort to be there. Sadly we did not know it would be our last family party all together.

In the run up to the wedding and after dad had some pain in his shoulder. He was back and forth to the docs for pain killers and injections into his shoulder to ease his pain, he was told it was muscular. Just 6 weeks after he had walked me up the aisle a doctor finally took a blood test and confirmed that the cancer was back. It had spread into his bones in his shoulder and had eaten away his shoulder socket so his arm had nothing to hold it into place. We were told it was terminal and only had weeks to live.

So my mum took my dad home and we were told the devestating news that my dad was dieing . He became very ill quickly and you could see his body giving up. He was constantly on shots of morphine just so he would be comfortable He was struggling with food and could really only manage scrambelled eggs. He struggled to sleep go to the toilet and even speak to people. He couldnt even give his new granddaughter a proper cuddle cause he was so sore, he slept on his chair in the living room as that was the only place he could rest a little more comfortably. 

On the 4th of september 2 weeks after he had been told he had terminal cancer he was admitted to raigmore hospital, he passed away that evening 5 hours after he was admitted. My mum was there to the end with him she held his hand and said goodbye as he made his way up to the sky and became another star in our night sky. My brother Robert and i and my husband Paul were there also. 

No child should have to see their parent suffer like i have and many of my friends have with their parents it is the most heart breaking thing ever. Luckily my dad was able to stay at home till the near end and had my loving mum support him and comfort and love him and hlding each others hand all the way through their 4 yr battle with cancer. Not everyone is that lucky so please did deep for macmillan cancer. xxx

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