Story
For those who don’t know my mum died of an aggressive cancer … breast cancer and bone cancer.
The journey started with a phone call from my dad ringing me and telling me to pull over. My mum had been rushed into A&E by ambulance and was in a bad condition . I went straight to A&E where my mum was slightly awake distraught crying …telling me they can’t do anything… she sobbed to me that she has cancer all in her body.I was in shock and couldn’t respond to her . I never saw my mum till the next day as they then rushed her to Christie’s in an ambulance to have additional scans.I wasn’t sure if she was going to die this day. Nobody knew.
They rushed her over to Christie’s and started chemo for the next day , for 5 days continuously trying to save my mum.. The chemo was painful but we hoped we could pro long mums life , my mum was so fit and healthy. we couldn’t believe what was happening.
After this my mum was having trouble walking as the cancer had also spread to her leg, after 5 days at Christie’s they moved her to Bolton hospital and replaced her bone in her leg. everyone was doing everything they could ,so she could have a better quality of life before she was going to die. This didn’t work and she ended up being bed bound.
My mum wanted to be at home but this was too difficult, her pain was never under control. We managed to get her a place in the hospice. My mum was always in pain she was bed bound and couldn’t get herself to the toilet so me and my brothers sisters and family cared for my mum. Mum always had a smile on her face and she was tough. She was very glamorous and during these times we picked her funeral and how she would like this ….obviously anyone who knows my mum 👩 she wanted 4 white horses and a silver carriage😅 so we sourced these who were king Andrews horses… this turned into a big project …. mum always had expensive taste unfortunate for my dad who kept reminding me the difference of 4 horses to 2 and reminding me that these are king Andrews horses ….I really had to fight mums corner on this.
The hospice was a safe place. I could sit with my mum even sleep there if I wanted too …many times I had not eaten they always had biscuits sandwiches and drinks for us.They cared about my family as much as my mum. Unfortunately mum got worse. She managed to make it out for my aunties wedding but died a week later. I remember many times crying driving to see her I would pop my makeup back on and show my brave face you keep strong because you have no choice to be weak. Mum died peacefully in my dads arms this became to distressing 4 days prior so I already said my goodbyes I was ready for her to die. Mum was sometimes not remembering who I was or that I had been there all day, When people get bone cancer high amounts of calcium cause this they forget who you are.
The hospice told me I would be going through trauma after the death who were professionally trained team rather than just grief. They helped us with everything even afterwards to understand what was going to happen.They had a garden and it was just a nice place to be. They made my mum happy and helped her the best they could. Priceless really, no amount of money could pay for this.
So I decided to tell my story as not many people know but this is close to my heart so I have decided to run a polar half a marathon in Tromlo in the artic circle as running has helped me through my bad days. Hopefully you can donate ….any value will be a huge help.
The Hospice needs £11,000 a day to provide all the services it does and fundraisers are a big part of making that happen. Every single penny raised is a huge help, it all adds up.
I never thought why something like this is so important but it was my families savour. We took life for granted at times people’s time and what’s important. Life’s funny it’s definitely shown me to live for the present as you never know what’s round the corner ! Hope you can help me and others. ❤️love Chloe ❤️ thankyou ❤️
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