Back in January 2022 James urinated blood. From that he was diagnosed with high grade stage 3 bladder cancer. He started chemo, then had chemoradiotherapy. His treatment finished in August 2022. His first scan was clear but his rigid cystoscopy showed the cancer had returned in November. Because of Christmas he had to wait for a further cystocopy and again cancer was detected. We had hoped that it could be cured, but his latest scan showed the cancer has spread to his liver and lungs and a cure is no longer possible. He is to start immunotherapy in March to buy us time. This is the only treatment the NHS will offer. There are other treatments that can be privately funded but looking in excess of £80k. This is called Enfortumab. This is a targeted therapy (not immunotherapy) so offers another possibility to extend his life.Enfortumab has had good results but is not approved due to its costs. If James’ NHS treatment doesn‘t work, we will have months not years. He will have a scan in three months to see how his cancer is responding to immunotherapy. If it hasn‘t responded then we wont have the time to raise the funds to attempt to start the Enfortumab ASAP. The Enfortumab has higher success rates on overall survival rates, but this comes at a price. This can be given if his immunotherapy fails. After losing Jess I’m not sure how our little family will cope. On top of that, my mental health is not great and neither of us work so money is very tight. We even looked into selling our ‘forever’ home. But this not a viable option at present. We will do all we can to prolong his life so our children do not have to lose another person they love. I’m not sure what is possible, but Jess herself believed that kindness was key, and one act of kindness can make all the difference in this world. Please, if anyone fancies doing fundraising for us then we‘d be forever grateful. What price can you put on life? What would you do for the person you love the most?Absolutely everything xx