It was a difficult journey for her because she used to be a home care manager and this time she was on the other side of the situation. After about two and a half months of caring for mum, we were exhausted and wondering what was going on as we thought we only had a matter of weeks left with her. We were up all night, my sister was literally a nurse.

We had lots of support from district nurses and Macmillan nurses. Mum wanted to stay at home until the end but the further along we went, we realised there were things which you have to do which you don't ever imagine having to do for your parent like taking them to the toilet, administering suppositories.

One day I told Kate I couldn't cope anymore and phoned Myton because we were so desperate. We had been coping so well until then. Then Myton was there every single day, several times a day. It made it possible for us to keep mum at home right up until the end. When the Myton at Home team came in it was about care, but one of the nurses, Maddy, would also do mum's nails and she really looked forward to that.

Myton enabled Kate to feel in control of her death. And for her family, the most important thing was that they had no regrets, and nothing left unsaid once they found out their time together was limited.

When we found out mum was dying, Kati and I planned out what we wanted and to make sure we and mum didn't have any regrets. The whole journey has made me unafraid of death and what happens. Mum got what she wanted by being able to be at home to die.