The Lily Mae Foundation

#10Ten10

UNITED BY #BABYLOSS; 10 MEN SUPPORTING EACH OTHER THROUGH 10 EVENTS TO BREAK THE STIGMA OF #MENSMENTALHEALTH
£16,079
raised of £20,000 target
by 342 supporters
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UNITED BY BABYLOSS, #10TEN10 is 10 MEN SUPPORTING EACH OTHER THROUGH 10 CHALLENGING EVENTS TO BREAK THE STIGMA OF #MENSMENTALHEALTH

Men Grieve Baby Loss differently but no less acutely than women. Society does not affirm the experience of men in loss and this ultimately has a profound impact on their ability to cope with the feelings they have leading many men to suffer with mental health illness.

The devastating impact of baby loss and its effects on bereaved parents are still to this day a stigma amongst society. Research shows that men grieve loss as intensely as women yet the social stereotype that men should be strong and bottle up their grief is stopping bereaved men accessing and getting the support they need.

Men may be reluctant to seek support for their mental health or disclose mental health troubles to loved ones. While many of the same difficulties are experienced by both men and women, some difficulties and influences on mental health are especially relevant for men. The medias portrayal of the issue of loss tends to focus on the female experience, and whilst this is important, men are very often forgotten leaving them feeling unsupported and vulnerable to mental health illness.

Societal Expectations, that is, the ways in which men and women have been traditionally expected to behave has been shown to play a role in mental health conditions. Men are often seen to display what have traditionally been perceived as masculine traits like strength, stoicism, dominance, and control. Whilst wanting to feel strong and in control are not inherently negative things, reliance on these traditional values can and will negatively impact mens mental health. Research continues to suggest that men who feel as though they are unable speak openly about emotions may be less able to recognise symptoms of mental health problems in themselves, and less likely to reach out for support.

#10TEN10 will show that it is ok to not be ok! It will highlight that men can and will suffer but that it is ok to be open with their emotions. We aim to show that it is ok to be afraid and be fearful of the unknown. It will demonstrate that by uniting in our fear to support each other that we are stronger together!'

Events that will be undertaken throughout the year 2020 are as follows:

- Night Walk

- Zip Line

- Sky Dive

- 3 Peaks Challenge

- Bear Grylls Shark Dive

- 4 Wolf Runs

- Birmingham Half Marathon

*Event dates re-arranged due to Covid 19.

*Thank you to Samuel Belcher who is taking part in the 3 peaks challenge in place of Rob Linley in memory of his daughter Harper. £6000 offline donation is thanks to Sams superb fundraising efforts!

About the charity

The Lily Mae Foundation

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The Lily Mae Foundation raises money in order to provide support to Parents and Families who have lost a baby to Stillbirth, Neonatal Death, Miscarriage or Medical Termination. Donate today - your support will help us to continue our support to bereaved parents, their families and friends.

Donation summary

Total raised
£16,078.09
+ £1,988.25 Gift Aid
Online donations
£10,078.09
Offline donations
£6,000.00
Direct donations
£10,078.09
Donations via fundraisers
£0.00

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