Thomas Robert Dingwall was born sleeping on 12/02/2017 weighing 4.4lbs

I'm struggling to put into words the feelings we've had over the last week, we are grief stricken, heartbroken and missing Thomas in ways we never understood possible but one thing we have felt is loved and supported. Family and friends have been truly amazing and we want to thank every one of you who has been in touch from the bottom of our hearts.

Lots of people have asked if there is anything they can do or anything we need and honestly the offers have so touching. There is one thing that we have both felt incredibly passionate about throughout all of this and that is the support from the charities that were involved from the moment we were told our earth shattering news last Tuesday, throughout the long wait for our beautiful boy to be born on Sunday and for us to try and cope with the idea of moving to a future without him. While we sat utterly grief stricken and barely able to comprehend what had happened or would be happening to us we were given a butterfly box from Towards Tomorrow Together. The box had been put together by other parents who had lost themselves and it included items that we would just never have been able to realise we wanted or needed at the time. The box had things such as hand print and cast kits which meant that in the short time we had with our boy we got lasting, treasured momentos as well as gifts for Thomas and trinkets for him and us to keep.

The time we had with him was unbearably short and I don't think we will ever properly heal from loosing the lifetime of memories that we thought we would be making together as a family but that box was created by people who understood that and made sure we have as many keepsakes and memories as possible from our desperately brief time together.

After the unbearable pain of hearing we had lost our son then the agony of waiting for him to be born, we found that when he arrived was surprisingly comforting and peaceful. There was nothing but love in the room as we all said our goodbyes and held and kissed our perfect sleeping baby. Something we would really like to do is honour Thomas's memory by helping ease some of the pain any other families that may have to go through this grief in the future.

If you have been thinking about sending cards or flowers to us, we are truly touched by everyone's thoughts but one thing we would really love is if we could help make some more of these boxes for this special charity. Our box was in honour of a sleeping baby called Finley, we'd love to help other parents with some boxes, funding for cold cots and support groups in memory of our Thomas, here's how you can help us if that's what you would like: